Fearful that police would not believe his claims of being a battered husband, Neil Tweedy decided to install a hidden camera to catch his abusive wife in action.
How did things turn out for Mr. Tweedy?
The Case at a Glance
According to accounts in The Telegraph (UK), Mr. Tweedy experienced a torrent of physical and verbal abuse from his wife throughout their relationship. In fact, three years before their actual wedding day, he was kicked and punched while on a family vacation.
The abuse continued even after the birth of the couple’s only child, a daughter now 4-years-old.
Fearing that no one would take his claims seriously, Mr. Tweedy eventually installed a hidden camera and captured three separate incidents of Mrs. Tweedy slapping him on the head and verbally swearing at him. One incident occurred in full view of their daughter.
After police were notified of the incident and provided the proof, Mrs. Tweedy was charged with three counts of assaulting her husband. She was also slapped with a restraining order that bans her from contacting Mr. Tweedy.
What was the cause of the abuse?
Mr. Tweedy pins his wife’s propensity for violence on alcohol. According to him, the first three years of the relationship were “amazing” but things began to fall apart when she began to drink heavily in private.
“The whole problem was alcohol,” he said. “She was admitted to hospital twice in the past year and could have died. Hopefully now, she’ll get the help she needs.”
How common is abuse against husbands?
It’s far more common than many people think. As we wrote in an article a few months ago, about one in four (1 of 4) adult men in the U.S. will experience domestic violence as a victim at some point in their lives.
What can I do if I’m being abused by my spouse?
Things can be tricky for male victims of domestic violence. They’re often conditioned to not express their feelings or even see themselves as victims.
If you’re a victim of domestic abuse, officials with the National Domestic Abuse Helpline encourage you to:
- Document all instances of abuse with photographs and doctor statements;
- Not allowing yourself to be provoked into retaliation;
- Get a restraining order; and
- Talk with family and friends who can offer support.
For immediate assistance, call your local police or the National Domestic Abuse Helpline at 800-799-7233.
Call The Men’s Legal Center in San Diego
If you’re an abused husband, it’s imperative that you obtain a domestic violence restraining order; after all, you have the right to feel safe.
It’s also crucial that you seek out a law firm specializing in men’s rights in San Diego. Here at the Men’s Legal Center, we can make arrangements so that a victim advocate is with you in court and in Family Court Service Counseling meetings.