As a man, you may have been raised to avoid any display of emotion. It is common for men to feel that they must suffer in stoic silence, even when they are heartbroken at the prospect of the end a marriage. However, recent research shows that men who can express their feelings, even in a controlled environment such as a counselor’s office, may be able to deal with the problems of divorce much more easily than those who do not.
Speak Up and Speak Out
According to experts, the underlying issue in keeping emotions reined in is often a fear of loss of control. Men are supposed to be in control in all circumstances, according to conventional wisdom, and allowing a flood of emotion is seen by many as being weak. However, the truth is that without some type of outlet to speak about feelings, men may actually weaken themselves by trying to be “too strong for too long.”
Experts advise that while going through an extremely emotional and stressful time such as a divorce that men take the following steps to protect their emotional health:
- Seek out a reputable counselor. Even if you do not tell anyone else what you are doing, let the counseling sessions be your safe place to vent your frustrations and emotions. Counselors can often provide you with good coping mechanisms to get you through a terribly difficult life experience.
- Phone a friend. If you have a good friend you can rely on to listen without judgment, take advantage of this opportunity. Friends are often willing to be a “shoulder to cry on” without judgment. Do not let false pride prevent you from relying on your good friends for support.
- Engage in physical activity. While major life changes are not recommended, now may be the perfect time for you to recommit to hitting the gym or engaging in a sport that you enjoy. Physical activity often releases chemicals that help you fight stress and handle your emotions more productively.
These and other actions can help you deal with your divorce with more emotional equilibrium. However, divorce is still an extremely stressful time period, so be good to yourself and take all the steps possible to smooth this transition.
A good divorce attorney can help. The attorneys at the Men’s Legal Center are ready to work with you, so call us today.