While marriage may not be easy, divorce is not a simple process either. Many people seek divorce as a “relief” from a bad marriage, but divorce brings its own stress and anxiety. How you handle your divorce will determine, in large part, exactly how stressful it is.
Ways to Protect Your Psyche
Divorce involves people, and that is one of the biggest things to remember when trying to make things smoother in the divorce process. Since there are two people and their individual desires involved, these desires shape the overall tone of the divorce and determine whether it is going to be a dragged-out emotional brawl or a civil act for both parties.
First, determine if divorce is really what you want. The future is shaped largely by the choices we make today, so if you start down the divorce path, you should be sure that this is the right solution for you. Explore other options, such as marriage counseling, if possible. You might find that a divorce will not make things better or give you what you want.
Once you have determined that divorce is the right decision, it is important to stop dragging out the negative emotions. This is not a time to prove that you are “right” about anything; in fact, that attitude can slow down the entire process and make your pain last longer. Try to remember that once you are on the road to divorce, the time for argument has passed. Now, you are simply focused on getting the divorce over with and protecting yourself and your children to the greatest degree possible. This attitude will help you avoid becoming embroiled in pointless arguments with your spouse.
Finally, take the “high road.” In every decision, weigh the consequences. You may feel it is only right to fight for various small items, but if they can be easily replaced, you are simply wasting time and money by doing so. Take the high road by allowing your spouse to exit the marriage with dignity and even with a feeling of having “won” the argument, and you will find that you are far better positioned to recover and move on than if you become bogged down in useless arguments and regrets. Exit with dignity, and you can always hold your head high.
The attorneys at the Men’s Legal Center are ready to help you pursue your divorce in the most effective and stress-free manner possible. Contact them today for more information.