For some men, divorce can be a release from an extremely unhappy situation. For other men, a wife’s request for a divorce is the first sign that something is wrong. Even if a husband noticed that a wife was distant or always seemed angry, he may not have understood why. Once the divorce “bomb” drops, many men are left reeling emotionally. They lose their wife, kids and their entire social network, sometimes in a very short time. Sometimes they become extremely depressed or engage in constant fighting with their former partner.
How Divorce Impacts Men
A man’s ego can be severely damaged during a divorce. The root meaning of the word is a person’s internal sense of who he is as a reflection of others and society as a whole. In other words, ego is strongly based in how a man views his role or place in society. An ego is necessary for people to function. A divorce can damage a man’s ego, causing him to no longer feel secure in his place in the larger picture, particularly if he has defined himself in terms of his family as a husband and father.
However, there is a way to overcome this extremely low point in one’s life. It begins by redefining masculinity. By shifting the focus away from the ex and towards self, men can recover a sense of emotional connectedness that may have been lost along the way. They can also build their own supportive social network rather than one based on a relationship that no longer exists.
Sadly, many men instinctively isolate themselves, seeing their self-worth as tied up in the marriage. However, it is important to resist this urge and to reach out and connect with people. Men should work to cultivate new friendships and renew old ones. Reconnecting with family and learning to support and connect with kids, even if the father does not live with them, can make a big difference in emotional health.
Help When Facing Divorce
Whether you are blindsided by the request for a divorce or you see it as a necessity, the Men’s Legal Center is here to help. The professionals at the Men’s Legal Center understand that a divorce is more than just the end of a marriage. Rather, it is something that will affect you for the rest of your life. Because of this, it is important to make the right decisions when going through the divorce process. Men’s Legal Center can provide you with a divorce lawyer that will ensure your individual legal needs are fully addressed.