Many dads find themselves “weekend warriors” after a divorce. They want to spend time with their children but they may be afraid that they lack the skills necessary to create the right home environment. This fear may be what causes the problem of dads who become the “fun parent” and simply take the kids on an endless round of weekend amusement park trips instead of spending real, quality time with them.
You can be a great father and create a good home environment for your children. All it takes is a little work on your part and a willingness to learn from your mistakes.
Five (Of The Many) Keys To Being A Great Dad
Obviously, there are more than five things that make up being a great parent. However, here are five tips that can help you spend quality time with your children after a divorce.
- Do not be afraid to be “boring.” Kids thrive on routine. If they know that every Saturday night is movie night with dad, break out the popcorn and curl up with a good video. Your kids will appreciate the stability.
- Be flexible. While routine may be the foundation of a good visit with your kids, it also pays to be flexible. Do not be so set in your routine that you cannot alter it quickly if the need arises. Your kids may be invited at the last minute to a birthday party when you had planned a picnic in the park. In that case, it may be better to honor their request and bend a little. You will find that they are appreciative and when you reschedule your outing for the next weekend you may find that they are more willing to accommodate your wishes.
- Be patient. Both you and the kids are adjusting to this new routine. A little kindness and patience goes a long way in making things run smoothly.
- Be honorable. If you promise your kids you are going to do something, do it. Do not make excuses. Only the most extreme emergencies should require you to change your plans. Children are quick to pick up on those who are dishonest, so do not put yourself or your children in that situation.
- Wait to date. It may be tempting to jump into another relationship, but avoid introducing your children to any new women until you have had a chance to test the relationship waters for yourself.
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