While there are ways to avoid stepping foot inside a courtroom during your divorce (mediation, negotiation, etc.), there are a few things you can do that will have a direct impact on the outcome of your case if you do have to go to court.
Dress for the Occasion
Believe it or not, it’s possible to be overdressed or underdressed in court. To avoid confusion, remember this simple rule: when it comes to deciding what to wear, your main goal is to appear as though you’re taking the process seriously and are prepared to talk about it. The best bet for men is khaki dress pants, dress shirt and sport coat.
What’s Your Body Saying
Even though you may be dressed just fine, don’t let your body language give the impression you’d rather be anywhere else. In fact, this is the perfect time for engagement. Express to the judge your feelings about your children or how you plan to move forward after the divorce. No eye-rolling, no muttering and no heavy sighs. Your body language should be that of a person fully involved with the proceedings.
Let Your Lawyer Prep You
Hopefully, you’ve hired an attorney who is skilled in divorce proceedings. Typically, any lawyer worth their degree will go to great lengths to prep you before your appearance date arrives. This can include going over expected questions from the judge, the order of the proceedings and proper tone to use.
Don’t Let Your Lawyer be Surprised
Honesty on your part is essential to enabling your lawyer properly represent you. Trust us, no detail is too embarrassing for your lawyer to hear, but the time to hear them is well before the court date. Ideally, there will be no surprises during your court appearance because you and your attorney will have properly prepped and have mapped out exactly how the proceedings will play out. Any surprises that catch your attorney off guard will not bode well for you.
If you’re going through or divorce or are considering it, we’d welcome the opportunity to talk with you about how best to proceed. Contact the San Diego offices of Men’s Legal Center at (619) 234-3838.