You may already be planning a great spring break or summer vacation, but what happens when your ex becomes obstructive and tries to spoil your vacation plans? The key to preventing this type of problem is having a solid written agreement about your vacation time with the kids and planning well ahead to avoid last-minute issues. The Men’s Legal Center is ready to work with you to devise a vacation strategy that will benefit you and your children and help you avoid conflicts with your former spouse.
Vacation Division in Divorce
If you have children, it is likely that one of the most important parts of your time with them is taking them on vacation. Many parents, especially single dads, look forward to this time all year and make special plans to visit exotic or exciting locales with the children. However, all of this excitement can quickly turn to anger if your former spouse suddenly informs you that she has scheduled summer camp during the time you were planning to take the children for vacation.
There are several ways to avoid this problem. First, you should always have your agreement with your spouse on vacation time in writing, and that agreement should be as specific as possible. In other words, your agreement should never say “two weeks per month in the summer.” Instead, it should specifically state “the last two weeks of July and the first two weeks of August” or whatever schedule you agree upon. This helps prevent misunderstandings and allows you to craft your vacation plans around solid dates.
Further, your agreement should include disposition of money matters. Who pays for transportation to and from your spouse’s home, particularly if you are living far away? Who pays for vacation-related expenses such as special clothing that needs to be purchased? Must you continue to pay child support when the children are with you? These items should be clearly spelled out in your agreement.
Finally, one of the best qualities you can develop is flexibility. There is a difference in your ex willfully sabotaging your vacation plans with the children and the sudden opportunity that arises for your child to go to a special event during your planned vacation time. As your child ages, he or she may wish to be consulted about your vacation plans, as well. Staying flexible helps you include everyone and compromise on vacation planning when necessary.
Contact the Men’s Legal Center today for help with divorce, child custody and child support matters.