If you’re a dad, the responsibilities that come with that title do not end with your divorce. In fact, there’s compelling research proving a wide variety of benefits – both psychological and social – to children who have direct engagement with their father.
But when a father lives far away from his children, keeping the bond strong can be a challenge.
In this issue, we’ll share a few tips for making sure you’re not far from your child’s mind.
- When your children have time to talk with you, that opportunity should immediately become your top priority. Whether you’re at work, watching a ballgame or whatever, stop what you’re doing and take the call. Even if your children merely want to call and say “goodnight,” they need to know that you’ll be there for them when they reach out.
- Establish a set time for talking, FaceTiming or Skyping. Texting or calling throughout the day can be hit-or-miss and difficult to coordinate, so try to arrange for a set time when both you and your children have a bit of downtime (perhaps after dinner) – and stick to that schedule.
- Record yourself (video or audio) reading your children’s favorite bedtime story, and send it along with the book to your child.
- Surprise your children with heartfelt handwritten letters telling them how much they mean to you.
- Extend the time that you’re with your children. Most custody arrangements include phrases like “every other weekend,” but if the custodial parent is agreeable, look for opportunities to spend extended periods of time you’re with your children. For example, try for a full week when your children are out of school.
Facing Divorce in San Diego? Call The Men’s Legal Center
We’re huge fans of dads. That’s one of the reasons we created our Great Dads program. It’s all part of our firm belief that fathers continue to play pivotal roles in the lives of their children even after divorce.
If you’re a man facing divorce, we urge you to get in touch with us here at the Men’s Legal Center. Our sole purpose is to make sure men have the resources and knowledge they need for the best possible outcome in family court.
You can reach us at 619-234-3838 or via email.