Divorce can be a difficult experience for all involved. However, it can also signal the beginning of a wonderful season in your life.
In this article, we’ll share some reasons why you should optimistic about your post-divorce life.
- This is your opportunity to build a life around your desires and strengths.
It’s natural to experience a period of depression during and immediately after divorce. Change is hard, and divorce is one of life’s big change-makers.However, the divorce occurred for a reason. Perhaps you and your spouse or partner simply weren’t on the same “life path.” Take the time now to work through your emotions, lean on your support network (friends, family, therapist, etc.).
This is the perfect time to set goals for yourself so that you can move forward.
Whether it’s going back to school to complete a degree; getting in better physical shape, or building a schedule that enables you to be a successful father, now is the time to capitalize on what makes you happy.
This is a time for new habits and a new outlook.
- Make sure your children are included.
Just because your marriage ended doesn’t mean you’ve lost your family. Whatever steps you take after divorce, make sure your children are included.
A positive response to adversity from you will help them learn to deal with it in their own lives. Also, as you develop healthy relationships in your post-divorce life, you’ll be giving them a model to follow.
- Learn to live in the moment.
Life after divorce often means added responsibilities, but it’s important to learn how to not take life so seriously. When feeling stressed or overwhelmed, take a look at life around you as you focus on living in the moment.
If you happen to be with your children, hug them and be thankful they’re a part of your life. If you’re in the office, take a moment and plan an after-work get-together with your co-workers.
- Be true to yourself.
We’re often filled with doubts in our lives, and question whether or not we should do certain things. Whether it’s being asked to volunteer for something or serve on a committee, we often make decisions that are in conflict with how we feel.
Once your divorce is complete, you are fully in charge of calling the shots for yourself.
Before agreeing to a commitment or turning it down, take a few moments and think about how you’re truly feeling.
- Better health.
Our chromosomes have little rings around them called telomeres. Their essential function is to stop chromosomes from fusing together. In times of stress, the telomeres can actually fall off.
But by freeing yourself from the source of the stress – such as an unhealthy marriage – you can literally add years to your life.
If you’re thinking about divorce in San Diego, call the Men’s Legal Center.
Hardly anyone thinks of divorce while getting married. While divorce can be a difficult and trying experience, it’s important to realize that it also represents an opportunity to rebuild your life to your specifications.
We are professional negotiators, and as licensed San Diego family law attorneys, the Men’s Legal Center is here to guide you through the process and secure an outcome as close to your desires as possible.
You can receive a free phone consultation and make your appointment by calling 619-234-3838 or via email.