For parents, divorce can be a complex and multi-faceted situation with firm goals and ideas about the future. For many young children, though, divorce can be a harsh time of questions and fears about the here and now.
In this issue, the San Diego men’s divorce attorneys with the Men’s Legal Center will share tips for helping children of divorce ease into the transition of the next phase of their lives.
Why children of divorce need special attention.
By merely being a child, youngsters are already dealing with enormous changes in their lives seemingly on a daily basis. By adding life-altering situations like divorce to the equation, the increased potential for confusion and fear are very real.
As the child’s parents, though, you and your soon-to-be ex are in a perfect position to help make the process less painful and unclear.
How can I help my child during my divorce?
As part of their series devoted to helping families transition through the divorce process, Missouri University Extension recently published a guide designed to help children express their thoughts and feelings about their parents’ divorce.
- Keep the lines of communication open with your child.
While each family situation is unique, it’s a good guess that your child will most likely have worries and questions about the divorce. The concerns can often be softened if they feel comfortable in talking openly with you. Rather than being concerned about arranging for a heart-to-heart talk with your child, keep your ears and mind open to recognize the opportunities for talking – and be certain not to let them pass.
- Enjoy some fresh air together.
We’ve talked recently about why spending time around nature is good for you and your child. It’s also an especially effective way of getting rid of feelings of tension and anger, while setting the stage for honest communication. Good ideas include swimming, biking, camping, walking, or even simply flying a kite with your child.
- Encourage your child to express his or her self through story telling.
It’s common for children to draw and even write stories. If your child does, encourage a story about the divorce. In fact, urge your child to be as creative as possible, including drawing pictures. This can be a telling way to find out what your child really thinks about their situation.
For expert advice from a San Diego men’s divorce lawyer, call The Men’s Legal Center.
As our regular readers know, we’re huge fans of dads and families. We hope the information you read here can help you and your family transition into your post-divorce lives as easily and happily as possible.
To find out more how a men’s San Diego men’s divorce lawyer can help you, get in touch with us here at The Men’s Legal Center.
You can reach us by phone at 619-234-338 or via email.