After a divorce, it can be difficult to co-parent. Divorce is meant to separate a couple; however, when children are involved, it may be impossible to make a clean break. While divorce is likely to bring out feelings of frustration and anger, it is important to put your children first and make it your goal to shield them from that litigation process. Post-divorce you will need to continue to put your children first and work with your ex-partner to parent them together.
Here are some tips to keep in mind when parenting post-divorce:
- Acknowledge Your Children’s Feelings – During and after divorce, it is highly likely your children will feel confused, upset, guilty and even abandoned. It is important to let your children know these feelings are normal and that you will both be their parents.
- Be Available – While you may not live with your children 24/7 post-divorce, it is important to let them know that you are always there for them to discuss their feelings.
- Keep Them Informed – It is important to keep your children informed about the details that will impact their lives. For example, if your children will be going back and forth between both new homes, prepare them for it.
- Keep Them Out of the Conflict – Do not bring your children into the conflict between you and your spouse. This means do not pass on information or attempt to seek information about your spouse from them.
- Refrain from Bad-Mouthing – Though you may have strong negative, and even justified, feelings about your ex, remember that she is still your child’s other parent. Do not speak badly about her in front of the children. Attempt to hide your contempt or anger when in the other parent’s presence. Remain courteous.
- Respect Your Child’s Relationship with Your Ex – Remember that there are two parents in your child’s life. Respect the relationship they have with the other parent by not intervening or passing judgement.
It is important to remember that divorce is very difficult for children. By following the steps above, you can make great strides in minimizing the stress and confusion your child will be feeling during divorce.
Along with protecting your child, be sure to take the proper steps to protect yourself during divorce. The team at the Men’s Legal Center have the experience and knowledge to ensure you are properly represented during any divorce or child custody proceedings.