We’ve shared warnings before about staying off social media while going through a divorce. The risks to rocking the boat during this precarious time are simply far too great.
There’s new data revealing that increased social media use by spouses and what they choose to share online have transformed the new medium into the latest minefield for many marriages.
Social Media Usually Trigger Arguments Among Spouses
During a survey of 2,000 married Brits, nearly a quarter of those polled confirmed they and their partner had at least one argument per week related to social media use.
About 17% revealed they and their partners argued every day about postings on Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, Skype and other social media platforms.
What Are They Arguing About?
Included in the press release announcing the findings was a summary of the leading causes of such social media consternation. They include partners:
- Not posting pictures of themselves with their significant others
- Using social media to stay in contact with ex-partners, often in the form of secret private messages
- Spending far too much time on social media
Is Your Login Information Private? Are You Sure?
Even though a third of those surveyed said their social media log-in credentials were a secret kept from their partner, 58% of total participants said they knew exactly what usernames and passwords their partners used – even though said partners were convinced that information was top-secret.
Nothing is Secret on Social Media
Divorce attorneys back here in the States agree in the assessment that social media has played an ever-increasing role in divorces.
In a survey of attorneys carried out by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers in 2010, 81% confirmed an uptick in the number of cases relying in part upon evidence found on social media outlets.
While working on behalf of their clients, 66% of the attorneys confirmed that Facebook was the top source for finding damning evidence against their client’s partners.
How to Prevent Social Media From Interfering With Your Relationship
Here are a few tips that – even though may sound simplistic – can go a long ways to preventing any flare-ups caused by social media use.
- More facetime than screentime.
It’s incredibly easy for intimate moments and potentially romantic conversations to be ruined by a partner who simply refuses to put down the device and actually engage with their significant other.
- Be honest about who you’re talking with online.
Social media has been a fantastic medium for friends from college or high school to reconnect. It’s only natural. However, reconnections that turn into regular conversations without your partner’s knowledge can easily lead to mystery and skepticism that something not exactly right is going on.
- Don’t believe everything you read.
It can be tempting to compare your relationship with those that appear to be perfect, based upon online postings. Don’t fall for the temptation. Take comfort in the knowledge that many people go to great lengths to pose and orchestrate the way they portray their lives online.
- Build and maintain an air of mystery about your relationship online.
All relationships and marriages contain intimate details that should be kept strictly between both partners. Don’t take this the wrong way, but most of your friends and family simply aren’t that interested in all the gory details.Sharing such information can trigger distrust between both partners and can backfire on you in a big way if both of you eventually divorce.
Are You a Man Facing or Thinking of Divorce? Call The Men’s Legal Center
There’s a host of things to carefully consider when going through a divorce. Subjects like the division of assets, child support, alimony, and child custody are but just a few examples of things that often need to be carefully thought through.
Like other legal matters, a divorce is a process that is best navigated by leveraging the skills and experience of an attorney who knows how to position you for the best possible outcome.
If you’re a man facing or considering divorce, we urge you to reach out to us today so that we can begin fighting for your rights to be secured in Family Court.