How to Reduce Conflict in Your Divorce



Celebrity gossip sites are filled with tales of divorces fueled by conflict. A recent example is that of Stone Temple Pilots guitarist Dean DeLeo and his soon-to-be former spouse, Jenn. Filled with nasty claims and equally nasty counterclaims, their divorce case is truly one in which there are no winners – especially when you consider the couple has a young daughter.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. In this article, we’ll talk about ways you can diffuse conflict in your divorce case, and why it’s in everyone’s best interest that you do so.

What’s being said in Dean DeLeo’s divorce case?

According to reports, Jenn has made claims of Dean being unfaithful, using drugs and alcohol, and being abusive. Dean has responded by saying the claims are false, and are merely an attempt to smear him as he seeks joint custody of the couple’s daughter.

Why conflict in divorce is not good.

Character accusations made by one spouse or partner against another during the divorce process can be problematic for all involved parties. Beyond smearing their reputation, the one being accused can be impacted negatively in just about every aspect of their life, including their ability to earn a living.

As for divorce cases involving children, there’s an abundance of research confirming the potential negative impact on them when there’s such conflict during the divorce process.

Such conflict can lead to the child developing a variety of negative psychological issues, including an inability to develop trust, anxiety, depression, and others.

How can I reduce conflict in my divorce?

Each divorce is unique, but you can be proactive in keeping things on the high road.

  • Even if your spouse or partner is being unkind, make efforts to keep your communication calm and courteous. It’s a good idea to remember that anything you say can come back to hurt you during the divorce process.
  • Work with your divorce lawyer to make an outline of how you’d like the divorce to end. This keeps you focused, and helps to prevent you from distraction by the “nit-picky” issues that can cause conflict.
  • Cooperate as best you can during the divorce process. For example, if you receive a request for documentation about a certain aspect of your divorce, fulfill the request as quickly as you can.
  • Identify the “hot button issues” that you know will result in an argument, and let your divorce lawyer negotiate those points on your behalf.

If you’re facing divorce, call the San Diego divorce attorneys at the Men’s Legal Center.

The San Diego family lawyers with the Men’s Legal Center have earned a reputation of trust, and can position you for the best possible outcome of your divorce. Doing things on your own can have long-lasting and painful consequences, so it pays to not take any chances. Our sole purpose is to make sure you have the resources and knowledge they need for the best possible outcome in family court.

You can reach us at 619-234-3838 or via email.

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