Singer-songwriter Mary J. Blige has filed for divorce from her husband-manager of 12 years Martin “Kendu” Isaacs.
Too Much Togetherness?
While she’s citing the proverbial “irreconcilable differences” as the grounds for the split, she has been vocal on the problems with marrying someone she works with.
Speaking with The (UK) Telegraph in 2014, Blige said, “He always has my back, but the downside is that there’s no separation – it’s on all the time. When you don’t feel like answering to your manager, he’s still your husband.”
Balance is Important in Relationships
If spending 100% of your time together with your partner is too much and zero is too little, surely there must be a sweet spot for balance.
Experts like divorce coach Aaron Kaplan agree that balance in a relationship is crucial to its longevity.
“Learning to spend time apart can be crucial so that the fun can be everlasting,” Kaplan said.
While relationships are definitely fun and exciting when they begin, it’s “unrealistic to expect every other area of your life to stop,” Kaplan wrote.
Benefits of Spending Time Apart
You don’t have to be an introvert to reap the benefits of spending time alone. In fact, time alone is something we can all benefit from. It gives us time to recharge our batteries, think about our relationships and other aspects of our lives.
Finding the Perfect Balance of Time
Because we’re all different, there’s no perfect prescription for everyone that will lead to and maintain a happy relationship with your partner. With that in mind, here are a few tips that can help.
- Accept the differences in needs. In other words, do not expect your partner to mirror your needs.
- Don’t be afraid to ask your partner if they feel you’re devoting enough time to the relationship. Honesty is king!
- Realize that all relationships have ebbs and flows. All of us have stressors in our lives which will eventually reveal themselves in any relationship. Don’t be afraid of it; it’s perfectly natural.
If You’re a Man Facing or Thinking of Divorce, Call The Men’s Legal Center
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If you’ve been served with divorce papers or are merely thinking about filing for divorce, we can help you.
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